Before we were married, we were told and read over and over of the importance of going to bed at the same time.

So Jimmy and I have been making a strong effort to do just that. I think there has only been one night that I stayed up later to complete a Christmas card.

As it turns out, it really is a great idea. We have a tiny bathroom, so Jimmy goes through his nightly routine first, while I blog or clean the kitchen or put the finishing touches on some invitation pieces. Then we switch, and by the time I finish up, Jimmy is in bed playing a game on his phone.

Its a good time to come back together at the end of the day and have some quiet time and talk about our day, more than the obligatory “How was work” – “It was fine. Standard work” conversation.

Over the last few months, we have started a routine. At the beginning, Jimmy would look through an app called iFunny while I read, and he would laugh and frequently show me images of what he was laughing at. They are really stupid humorous images, but it evolved into our nightly “Funnies.” Now, we can never go to sleep without it!

Every night I get into bed next to Jimmy and put my head on his shoulder and we start paging through the app, and scoff and giggle and laugh at the stupid posts.

It has become one of my favorite parts of the day! Besides that I love laughing with Jimmy, it seems to have been good for us to go to sleep smiling and laughing. Laughter is so good for the human soul, even when it is stupid, juvenile humor. If I am upset for some reason, I get to end the day on a happier note. I can’t go to sleep angry at any one, no matter how hard I try.

Make sure you get some laughter in your life. Do one thing that makes you happy each day!

And for couples at any phase in life -newlywed, 4 kids in, retired- whenever possible- once a week, twice a month- go to sleep at the same time, even if one of you stays awake on your ipad or reading a book. I am certainly no expert, but I think that allowing your schedules to sync up at least once in the day, as you reset for tomorrow, is very important.

….After all, I haven’t killed Jimmy yet. And that is a miracle.


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